How often do we notice if our actions are stupid or offensive toward other people? How do avoid embarrassing ourselves in public and putting the people around us in a compromising position? How do we keep ourselves out of social trouble the next time we are out with our peers?
In this blog post, I’ll share some ideas that may help you blend in and, hopefully, help create a positive image once you’ve left the people you just mingled with.
Listen More, Talk Less – If you are the type of person who likes to talk about what you do, I would advice you to start the habit of zipping your lips and, instead, open your ears. Good conversationalists aren’t the ones who talk too much. They are the ones who know how to listen and ask relevant questions that would encourage the other party to speak more, keeping the conversation moving forward. When you are genuinely interested in other people, the natural response is for them to be interested in being around you.
Observe What’s Going On – Don’t be insensitive to what’s going on around you. When at a gathering, formal or informal, always ask for the host of the event and make it a point to introduce yourself or say “Thank you” for the opportunity to be invited to the event. And if you’re not sure what to do, don’t be scared to ask for other people’s advice. Also remember that you’re probably not the only one feeling a bit awkward.
Develop Eye Contact – When someone is talking to you, please don’t let your eyes wander around. Look at the eyes of the person speaking. This will give him/her the impression that you’re interested in the topic of the conversation. Don’t fake comprehension. It will make you look stupid. Instead, get ready to ask the other person to elaborate on what he/she meant if you find the topic or statement confusing.
Don’t Be On Your Phone – This is pretty self explanatory. You can’t be in a group conversation while being on your phone. That’s just plane rude. Leave your phone inside your purse or pocket and engage the people around you. Plain and simple.
Keep Your Politics To Yourself – It may really be very tempting to express your personal political affiliation. Refrain from doing it! Unless, you’re ready to here something opposite to your personal political belief, it would be best to just keep your political views to yourself. I find myself guilty of not following this tip. But I can stand up for what I believe in and I really don’t have a problem engaging other people in a political debate. But that never really helps you win friends in the end… unless you concede to them.
Keep Your Religion To Yourself – Talk about your way of living when asked. But don’t preach when you weren’t invited to do so. There’s a time a place to share your faith. And unless you are being asked to do so by the majority, it is best to just keep your faith to yourself. Now, when people do ask about your religion and you see that they’re genuinely interested to find out, then go ahead and share your faith. Until then, don’t.
Be Polite and Considerate – We may not always agree with what will be said to us or what we hear. And that’s okay. We have to accept that we cannot win friends nor influence people by debating them. Instead, we much show them love and understanding. We must be polite to other people’s beliefs and qualms without compromising our own values. This can e done but it can be very hard to do.
There are more tips such as these out there that, when applied in your daily living, will help live a more fruitful and peaceful life. All you have to do is open your eyes and your heart to the possibility of being a better human being. It’s not rocket science. It’s just common sense.